Are You Too Nice?

Being nice is one thing but being too nice is another.  Frankly it can annoy your partner or even be a huge turn off.  Keep that in mind when you are afraid to stand up for yourself.  Setting boundaries not only is good for you but it's also good for your relationship. 

Some people might think it's mean of me to say this but in a healthy relationship both people need to "earn love".  It's not just slip the ring on and for better or worse.  Marriage is an on going thing to take care of.  Becoming complacent is boring.  Not saying what is wrong can lead to underlying anger because you feel you are taken advantage of.  It's best to just spit it out and say what is wrong.  It doesn't mean you have to be rude either just honest. 

Hey Guys... Easy Foreplay!

If you really, really, really want to seduce your wife, it's easier than you think. Well, yes it will take some work but it's simple. Ready? Ok, just do things for her. Make dinner, do the dishes, watch the kids, anything that would make her life easier will rev up the romance! Start making love to her outside the bedroom and you'll have a lot more lovemaking in the bedroom!

How to Handle Jealousy

Last time I posted about the Little Green Monster, jealousy. Even if only one person in the relationship suffers from it, it can be very hard on both parties. That monster is even the cause of breakups! Jealousy is born of insecurity.

So, here's what to do...

It's all about you! If you are jealous then you need to find the good in yourself. Make a list of all the wonderful things about you and don't be modest. This list is private for you so don't hold back. Look at your list several times a day or at least revisit it mentally. Stand in the power of who you are. You are a special and unique person.

This exercise is to help you not depend on what others think about you and "know" what you think about you. Give this time to work. Everytime you begin to have feelings of insecurity or jealousy then remember your list and kick that green monster out of your head!

Jealousy The Little Green Monster

I have a friend who is going through an awful bout of jealousy. Her husband can't breathe because she is always accusing him of something.

I don't think there is a person on this planet who at one time or another hasn't been jealous or insecure. It's one of the most awful feelings ever!

I'm going to be on a mission and try to check out some things on the web and see if I can't find some ways of managing The Little Green Monster.

I'll be back to post again with the info I find out.

The Sexy Truth

Three women, one engaged, one married and one mistress are chatting about their relationships and decide to amaze their men. They come up with a great plan and that night they all three wear black leather bras and panties, stiletto heels, and a mask over their eyes.

A few days later they meet up for lunch.

The engaged woman says, "The other night my boyfriend came over and he found me in my new outfit and said "You are the love of my life. I love you." Then we made love all night long."

The mistress said, "Me, too! The other night I met my lover at his office and I was wearing my outfit under a raincoat. When I opened the coat he didn't say a word, but we had wild sex all night."

The married woman explained, "I sent the kids to stay at my mom's hour for the night. When my husband came home, I was wearing my outfit and as soon as he came in the door and saw me he said, "What's for dinner, Batman?"

How Love Changes - Through The Years

I'm not sure if this post will be viewed as cynical or humorous, but this one is all about what a difference years can make in your relationship.

I was thinking about how it is when you hear someone young or even newly in love talk about their SO as if they are the best person on the planet. That person is perfect and if you happen to find something wrong with them there is always a good excuse for it.

Now, just find someone who has been married, let's say at least ten years plus. Now we have a totally different point of view, not that we don't love this person we have learned to love all the duh things about them.

I'm sure God made Adam and Eve and she probably thought Adam was a goof so, for the sake of populating the Earth, God had to tweak Eve to believe Adam was awesome... so there you go it's in our genetic code to like what he likes and think he is oh so wonderful long enough to accept who he is and love him anyway. ;o)

If you don't believe me; strike up a conversation about men with women in different age groups and I'm sure you'll see what I'm talking about.

Partner Peeves

So, the way he breathes when he eats just sends you into a twirl and from there; he walks funny and his ears don't match either. Partner peeves can take over and ruin a good relationship if you let them. You have to remember I said you! It is by choice that you see these things and magnify them until they look a thousand times bigger than they are.

Put a new slide under your marriage microscope!

For 30 days make a list of things you like about your partner, even if it's the way his sock drawer is organized, write five of these everyday. Then write down five things about the past that were good, great and wonderful. Trips the two of you took, fun things you did, and just general memories of why you choose this person to be your partner.

In the end it's about what you see so take a closer look at the good things and the breathing, funny walking, lopsided ear monster will be the love of your life!