How Love Changes - Through The Years

I'm not sure if this post will be viewed as cynical or humorous, but this one is all about what a difference years can make in your relationship.

I was thinking about how it is when you hear someone young or even newly in love talk about their SO as if they are the best person on the planet. That person is perfect and if you happen to find something wrong with them there is always a good excuse for it.

Now, just find someone who has been married, let's say at least ten years plus. Now we have a totally different point of view, not that we don't love this person we have learned to love all the duh things about them.

I'm sure God made Adam and Eve and she probably thought Adam was a goof so, for the sake of populating the Earth, God had to tweak Eve to believe Adam was awesome... so there you go it's in our genetic code to like what he likes and think he is oh so wonderful long enough to accept who he is and love him anyway. ;o)

If you don't believe me; strike up a conversation about men with women in different age groups and I'm sure you'll see what I'm talking about.

Partner Peeves

So, the way he breathes when he eats just sends you into a twirl and from there; he walks funny and his ears don't match either. Partner peeves can take over and ruin a good relationship if you let them. You have to remember I said you! It is by choice that you see these things and magnify them until they look a thousand times bigger than they are.

Put a new slide under your marriage microscope!

For 30 days make a list of things you like about your partner, even if it's the way his sock drawer is organized, write five of these everyday. Then write down five things about the past that were good, great and wonderful. Trips the two of you took, fun things you did, and just general memories of why you choose this person to be your partner.

In the end it's about what you see so take a closer look at the good things and the breathing, funny walking, lopsided ear monster will be the love of your life!

Take Out The Trash

Sing with me ladies...

Take out the papers and the trash,

or he won't get a piece of a$$. :o)

Ha, ha, you know you love it!

Really though, this post today is about all those ladies that do EVERYTHING around the house. He can do things and if he didn't have you, he would have to. If you are frustrated because he won't do anything, part of the blame is yours! Yes, I know that is a hard pill to swallow but honestly, if you don't ask most men aren't just going to get off the couch and just do things out of the kindness of their hearts.

Doing everything yourself and not asking for help can build resentment. Ask when you need help, and if he doesn't want to help... just refer to the song above.

The Foundation

I feel that lots of times people go into marriage having a "storybook idea" of mushy, mushy romantic love. Well, it's not! I think movies and books that even try to promote this idea should come with a disclaimer much like those diet programs that state "results not typical".

I call this post The Foundation because even when we don't like the person we are married to, as long as we have the foundation of love, we have what we need to see it through, to work through the downs, cherish in the good times and be content with those times when we just "are".

Since this is my first post I will say that foundation of love or not, there are times that a marriage shouldn't work out and that is when there is abuse involved. I will be posting about abuse and list websites in future posts so that if you or anyone you know is suffering from this they can get the help they need.