How to Handle Jealousy

Last time I posted about the Little Green Monster, jealousy. Even if only one person in the relationship suffers from it, it can be very hard on both parties. That monster is even the cause of breakups! Jealousy is born of insecurity.

So, here's what to do...

It's all about you! If you are jealous then you need to find the good in yourself. Make a list of all the wonderful things about you and don't be modest. This list is private for you so don't hold back. Look at your list several times a day or at least revisit it mentally. Stand in the power of who you are. You are a special and unique person.

This exercise is to help you not depend on what others think about you and "know" what you think about you. Give this time to work. Everytime you begin to have feelings of insecurity or jealousy then remember your list and kick that green monster out of your head!

Partner Peeves

So, the way he breathes when he eats just sends you into a twirl and from there; he walks funny and his ears don't match either. Partner peeves can take over and ruin a good relationship if you let them. You have to remember I said you! It is by choice that you see these things and magnify them until they look a thousand times bigger than they are.

Put a new slide under your marriage microscope!

For 30 days make a list of things you like about your partner, even if it's the way his sock drawer is organized, write five of these everyday. Then write down five things about the past that were good, great and wonderful. Trips the two of you took, fun things you did, and just general memories of why you choose this person to be your partner.

In the end it's about what you see so take a closer look at the good things and the breathing, funny walking, lopsided ear monster will be the love of your life!